Coffee dates are a standard when it comes to first dates. Many people don’t even consider them ‘real’ dates because they are usually made as a way to get to know someone better before planning anything very special. The coffee date is important though, as it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship. A good coffee date can lead to more dates, while a bad coffee date will just leave you needing to find someone else to date.
Make a Schedule
Try to plan a coffee date for early in the day. This way you can schedule a cut off time. This is important as it keeps the date short enough to not get boring, but allows you enough time to get to know the other person. It’s also much easier to walk away from a date if they think you have an appointment or other engagement to get to. Try to plan for about two hours. So if you meet at 3, say you need to leave by 5 to get somewhere. If it goes well, you can eliminate the schedule idea for the next date.
Keep it Light
The coffee date should be about getting to know the other person and see if there is chemistry and compatibility there. Avoid touchy subjects. You shouldn’t bring up religion unless you met the person through the church or on a religious website. Politics can also get heated very quickly, and can lead to a terrible date experience. Just try to focus on things like hobbies, favorites, and other mild topics. There will be time later to get in to deeper discussions if the chemistry is there.